Relationship Health for Dummies

It appears to me that a lot of  couples these days, forget who they started out being. Many couples forget their roots. After being together for a  few years or more they seem to lose that friendship that once bonded them together. Why is that?  Is it change, or is it terminal dis-interestry?  I don't think so. So why the drift? Often we just get comfortable and lazy. To fix it, we have to inject new life into the mix.

You should reflect on your relationship and what has changed—you will likely find that you had a lot more intimacy in the early days of your relationship. This would include more phone calls, texting, touching, kissing and other endearments . Sending those little love notes or messages to each other throughout the day does wonders in moving a relationship forward.  Why would we want to let that initial excitement die? Now, there are those relationships that are just not meant to be, but I am talking about couples who have been in a longer, more committed relationship, and who really love each other.  We often blame the failure on stress, stress at work, financial stress, etc., but this is not the real culprit here.  All these issues were probably the ones that made us closer in the first place.

If we are like most couples, we just get lazy. We get into our comfort zone, and let things deteriorate past the point of no return. Men for instance, start ogling more at other women, and making comments about how good looking they are, and they forget about the one their with.  Women might take a look at the cute butt of some hot guy, and romanticize about them. The issue is that we start to neglect each other in small ways that end up being very significant in the long run. We start to feel less adequate - less attractive. Many times we do not want to bring up each small issue,for fear of looking like a nit picker, but the result is a cascading failure of the relationship as small issues continue to be swept under the carpet. Both men and women need to be fearless in expressing their disapproval, and faultless in absorbing and trying to understand the complaints.  We must always be sensitive to our partner's feelings - relationships take work, and when both partners work at it - it grows into a lasting romance. Here are a few things we can do to make our relationships stay healthy:

1) Go out of your way to complement your partner each day. It will make both of you feel good.
2) Tell them you love them --- sometimes we don't hear this enough
3) Men stop ogling and women stop checking out cute butts.
4)  Honesty.....no one likes to be lied to so why do it. Tell each other everything, it will produce conversation
5) No matter how busy you are, and other than sleeping at night, make sure you set aside at least an hour a day to be alone together
6) Communicate- tell your partner how you feel, and work things out before they become worse than they are.
7) Always start your day off with a kiss, and a hug, and a good morning- it starts your day off on a positive note, and it feels real good too.
8) Be relaxed and do not be afraid of public displays of affection – some public kissing and tenderness will exhibit to the world how you care about your partner and broadcast to them that you love them and want to make sure that everyone knows it
9) Don't be so serious...Laugh, smile, you know that saying “Partners that laugh together stay together” Its so true.....
10)  Never go to bed angry – talk it out and work it out – the best thing for a relationship is a kiss before you go to sleep. The second best thing is sex before you go to sleep. You cannot have the second without the first.

Relationships all have their ups, and downs, but if you have heart, and desire to make it work it will blossom into something special. So, don't let that spark creep away- follow the above rules, and create some of your own a long the way....just have fun if you can dream about it then you can achieve it..

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Horny As Hell

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Mature Dating Sites

Being single again after a lifetime of marriage and being over fifty can be pretty daunting. Almost half of women over the age of sixty live alone compared to only one out of 6 men. Dating has certainly changed a lot in the past 30 years or so. It is not all that unusual to see granny's buying condoms with their support hose. Older men are also a bit confused by modern dating etiquette, and are somewhat uncertain as to whether to be chivalrous, treat their female date with the same consideration as a male friend, or go dutch treat.

Several old television relic’s have proven more than once that we all have a come back or two in us, but with every failed date that idea, like our perfect hearing, is slowly fading away. Most of us would like to believe that we can come back from the ashes of a previous relationship a few times, but after a while, with little luck, hope will no longer seem so spring eternal anymore. Approaching a relationship the second or third time around can be pretty daunting, especially if you have been out of the game for a few decades because of a successful relationship.  Finding yourself splitting in your 50's can be a very shattering experience. Becoming a widow or widower is even more so. Finding the right man or women in your golden years is no easy task, you find more Mr and Mrs Wrongs than Rights. And all of them seem to talk about are their medical problems a lot ('ha' like I don't have my own).

I have met some funny (strange) people during my dating experiences. One guy fawned over me to the point of nausea Another only talked about his kids, grand kids, and sports he was into, to the tune that we never spent any time talking about me at all. It may have been nerves, but what came through was an overly dominant 'all about me' personality that I ran from as quickly as possible.. You will often have to sit through a mind boggling evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife,  ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their hemorrhoids are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Of course several of them will also bring up the topic of Cialis or Viagra, just trying to lay a foundation for later on.

And its not much easier for the men.  The most recurring male horror story is the woman who is trying to control from the first date, or someone who is in such a hurry to set their hooks in that they are trying to move in after a couple of weeks. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.

So why is it so tough to find a match when you are a senior?  Life is supposed to get easier as you get older. Unfortunately this does not seem to apply to mature people dating. What is the cause of this phenomenon? It is not as if we are amateurs in the dating game! It is not as if we do not know what we want. So why is it so hard to find it? Are we maybe just to set in our ways? Most likely the answer is no! Mature adults want the same things that the younger set are seeking to find in a relationship. They all want:

1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
3)Someone Interesting
4)Someone Compassionate
5)Someone Loving
6)Someone Understanding
7)Someone Compatible
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect

Is that asking too much?

After discussing my personal life with a few of my best friends. My friends suggested that I try one of the many senior dating sites available online. I shied away from the topic and the idea of a dating site, but after some encouraging words from my pals, and after watching too many late movies by myself, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and looked for senior dating sites. There were so many that I was taken aback.

It was a little confusing for me at first. This was just so much tougher than picking just the right shade of lipstick at the pharmacy. I explained my dilemma to one one my friends and she suggested a site for me. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.

She said that is how she met her boyfriend. Here I was thinking that she met this terrific guy at work, what a shock. So I gave the same ones a try, it was easy I just created a profile, told them what I was looking for in a man, and they did the rest. Pretty soon I find myself matched to several interesting guys, and they can all actually carry on an intelligent conversation. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in in what seems like centuries I am actually going out with fabulous men and it's so exciting, life does get better with age.

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Most Common Difficulties with Dating Women

If you are looking for tips on dating women, then this post hopefully will give you a few insights. When you are successful with women on a first date, they will will want to go out with you again, no matter what your financial position is or how you look. There is one key success factor, and that is charm, charm, charm.  Although there is such a thing as too nice, girls will tend to forgive that. There is however, a few things you should not do such as:
1) Do not be too subservient such as
a. Making her feel so important that you look needy. If you are praising her or giving her a complement, do it in a light hearted manner. You will achieve the complement without appearing to be subservient.
b. Asking her to compare you  others – on a first date you will look like less because of the lack of history Do not push this rhetorical button; it is too soon to get into this level of feedback.
c. Delegating control of the date to her. Questions should not be open ended. If you are not sure of what she would like, then give her short list of things to do next. If she is not happy with any of them, then you have have not done sufficient research as to what her needs are. You have screwed up, you deserve to be dumped. (On subsequent dates, you can dig for suggestions, but on a first date you should appear to be on top, thoughtful, but flexible).
2) The next common mistake is trying to impress her excessively. Do not crow and breast beat, and do not say how much money you make.  Just be a considerate partner, listen to her, and pick up the bill.  Date one is female centric, it is not about you. If she wants to know more about you, then give them a solid well thought out answer but avoid excessive rhetoric, or else you are in the danger zone of saying too much and coming across as boasting or bragging.
3) Do not do not make the mistake of treating her like a queen. That advice is more important if the woman is very pretty.  Very pretty women are used to being on a pedestal. Did you ever notice how often that really attractive women are hanging out with bad boys?  That is because hoods do not put them on a pedestal and they feel like they are being appreciated for who they are. In many cases the bums treat them like crap, but they like that because at least the bum is treating them differently than everyone else does. Nothing is more tiring to attractive women as getting an unsolicited compliment – they have heard it all before.  The more successful tack is to just ask them something about themselves, such as what they are doing, where they work, etc.
4) Being exclusive too soon in a relationship.  Both you and her should be obviously playing the field initially. If you come across as someone who would commit exclusively either on or just after the first date, you will seem  desperate in their eyes.  No woman wants to be dating a needy loser. You have to come across as successful in relationships, and therefore more interesting in her eyes.

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Top 10 Online Dating

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Chat

Do you know what a chat line is? They are essentially a way for people to communicate, either by phone, or via video chatting online. All services allow one on one chatting, but several allow for group chatting. There are also online chat services that allow you to connect with other people from around the world through the Internet. Chat line services offer friendship, the possibility for a relationship, or even phone sex. Chat lines are becoming increasingly popular and more and more people are using them. There are so many different chat lines you can use it can get a little confusing so try to choose the one you want very carefully.

                                        Phone Chat

If you have never used a chat service, you are in for a surprise as to how easy it is. Simply call a phone number (which is usually local and therefore not subject to long distance charges), record your personal ad so other people can see if they want to connect with you even if you are not online. At that point, you simply sit back and start chatting with other people. It is almost like being on an old time party line where you can hear other peoples conversations.

What is so popular about phone chat? Well here are a few reason's:

1)Chat lines are just so low tech. No expensive computer to buy. Simply pick up your phone, dial a number, and start talking. Anyone can do that..
2)Phone chat lines allow you to listen to people's verbal profiles. You can tell if you like the sound of the person, if they sound interesting, if they sound boring, if they seem spontaneous – all kinds of things that you cannot detect from written communication. You can also record you own little personal ad.
3)Chat lines are most effective in a local setting, both from a cost and a successful match point of view. As such, most chat services are totally geared to your locality. It is not always easy to find local people, especially if you are new to a city. Chat lines are tailor made for new arrivals. This is one of the main reasons why they are so popular.
4)Phone chat lines give you the opportunity to use their live chat to talk to someone that you have something in common with and someone that may interest you. This is a good way to get to know them so you can decide if you want to take it a step further and actually meet them in person.
5)With phone chat lines you don't have to give out your name you can be completely anonymous keeping yourself safe from weirdos and kooks while enjoying yourself and having fun in the process.
6)Many phone chat services also allow you to anonymously text message people that you are becoming more friendly with. This allows you to keep your communications going all day, even if you are not both on the chat line at the same time.

As long as we still use phones to communicate there will always be chat lines available for you to meet someone new and special with, or just to talk and share some humorous anecdotes with – you never have to be lonely again .



                                   Online Video Chat

Online chatting has been considered a tremendous success when it comes to starting a long term friendship or relationship. Everyday more people are turning to the Internet to find  other people like themselves also looking for that special somebody, someone who shares  the same passions, interests and goals. Some are very much interested in finding their life partner and chatting is a good way to break the ice and is seen as a good starting point. Over the years many adults have found genuine loving relationships that actually lead to happy marriages, most of these happy endings were started by the simple act of chatting.
There are several advantages to online chat such as:

1)You can be completely anonymous and feel safe knowing that you only give out as much info about yourself as you want.
2)You have the possibility of connecting with just about any person of the opposite sex anywhere in the world.
3)If you're gay or lesbian its nice to know that there are hundreds of chatting sites you can use to connect to other gays and lesbians seeking someone to share your life with.
4)You can connect solely with people who have the same interests and passions as yourself.
5)You can also learn about other country’s and cultures by chatting with people online from other parts of the world. You also have the opportunity to exchange photo's and even recipes from other country’s, think of the possibilities, there have been a lot of long term relationships made by people from other country's who met on an online chat site.
6)Online chat lines have such a wide appeal for not only singles but seniors, married couples, adults, christian singles, lesbians, gays the list goes on. You can use online chat lines to connect to long lost friends as well as family members you may have lost contact with over the years, the possibilities are absolutely endless.
7)With online chat you don't necessarily have to be looking or a relationship with someone, you can use online chat to meet and start long term friendships with people in your own town or from around the world.

Online Chat as well as Phone Chat also have their disadvantages, these are a few things to remember when using either one.

1)People can hide their true identity.
2)People can lie about their marital status.
3)People can be dishonest about their age and sex.
4)People can hide their true character.
5)People can hide their true intentions.
6)People can also hide and lie about their criminal background.
7)People online can be a sexual predator so be careful before meeting

In spite of the risks, using reasonable caution, you will find phone chatting a lot less risky than talking to someone in a bar. So now that you know the risks and rewards of online chatting, you are likely ready to try it out. You will find a link below to a site that has a lot of chatting services mentioned. It is one of the best places to find great chat services.

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Dating In The Electronic Age

With every passing day, things change in the dating world. It seems like only yesterday all you needed for a successful courtship was a big club to smack a love interest over the head with. But nowadays, especially with social media, there are some considerations you need to make while dating new people. So to help you out, I have included a few choice tidbits of information that you may be able to glean some tips from.


Writing Her at Work

Almost every white collar worker has a computer at their disposal in their job place now. This is an opportunity for you to send some little "thinking about you" note. Although you may be tempted to include some cute photo of you and her smooching, or other more intimate stuff, do not do so. Email in the work place is not private, and is often monitored by the computer department. Sending intimate information into a corporation can diminish your girlfriend in the eyes of others at work, especially if she is in any sort of supervisory position. Most people do not realize that work email is not private and it is totally owned by the company where she works. They can read anything at will without any legal documentation required.


Other Dudes Posting on her Facebook Wall

No matter how inappropriate a random yahoo is on your girlfriend’s Facebook wall, don’t lose your cool. Don’t get jealous. If she’s a quality lady, she’ll tell the dude to clean it up or she’ll un-friend him (unless it really us just harmless bantering between old friends). If you see the guy at a club, feel free to “crop dust” him as revenge. (Crop dusting is walking by someone in a club and farting as you pass them, leaving them in a big stink cloud).


Turn Down Your Answering Machine to “Off”

You never know who will call you or what they will say. If you are with your girlfriend in your apartment and your ex calls looking to get back together it could prove embarrassing. To avoid this type of drama in your life, it is just a lot safer to leave the machine off and check messages when you are alone.


See Her Off In The Morning

Many women are very career oriented now. To this end, she may have to be an early riser to stay on top of workloads. If she stayed the night, you will score big points by getting up with her in the early morning hours when she rises. Fix her a light breakfast of toast and coffee, or toast and tea. The extra attention will be well received, and you can pretty much bank on getting some extra loving that night for the effort! Besides, you can go back to sleep after she has gone and grab a few more winks anyway, so it is no biggie from your perspective. This is the best nooky-getting gimmick ever!


Plug All Anniversaries, Etc. Into Your Doodad

Start using that expensive smart phone that you keep in your pocket to its fullest. You may already be using it for important events already.. Besides the obvious of plugging in birthday, anniversary, and stuff, you should also plug in a monthly reminder of your first date (after a year change it to a yearly reminder). Include information in the notes section of the reminder about what she was wearing, where you went, what you talked about, and any other trivia that happened that day. Program it to remind you a week before each to get her a present or make a reservation at her favorite restaurant. This is another great nooky getter!


Wash Your Sheets Weekly

Some guys just do not get it. It is okay to sleep in your own drool stains. It is not cool to expect your girlfriend to do the same! Clean it up if you want her to actually lie down in your bed to have sex with you.


Shop With Her – At Your Local Sex Store

There is nothing worse than breaking out a funky sex toy or costume that you bought for your new girlfriend; only to find out she doesn’t like it, or it doesn’t fit. You cannot return intimate apparel or sex toys, so it is worth the effort to get the right stuff in the first place. Make the effort to involve her in the selection so she will actually be into using whatever you get. There are a couple of approaches. The first is to get her wasted so she will agree to almost any thing. The second is to just go in to look around so you can see what all the "sex perverts" are in to. When you get her in there, you can joke about some of the more extreme stuff, but it will be easy to talk her into trying some of the cuter stuff like sexy outfits, whipped cream, or edible panties for your initial purchases. Once she is more into it, she will get more adventurous.


Now go have a blast!

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