Wearing Just a Bra and Panties Can Be A Turnoff

Where to begin?

A two year relationship I was in had just ended. I was still in the, “I don't know what I want to do yet” stage of introspection. In any event, I got a call from my brother. He said that his girlfriend was pressuring him to fix me up with her brother. He wondered if I could do him a favor and go out with the guy just to get her off his back. Reluctant as I was to do this, he twisted my arm a bit. His reasoning was that it was only one night and there was no commitment required on my part to have a second date. He made is sound like his girlfriend would really be pissed at him if I did not go, so I found myself agreeing. He told me he would call back with the time, but he seemed compelled to caution me to play nice and not be bitchy with my date. I told him that I was always a lady, just that some guys did not deserve that I act much like a lady. As long as he behaved himself, so would I. Later that night he emailed me this guys photo,”WOW” he was gorgeous! So what was wrong with him?

We talked on the phone and decided to meet at a local chain restaurant not far from me. As I walked in, he stood up and signalled me over to our table. It was nice that he had came early enough to arrange for that ahead of time. At least he was considerate. I knew it was him from the photo I had seen but he looked even better in person. As I walked up to the table, we mutually introduced ourselves, and then sat down and talked a bit while studying the menus that were already on the table. 

When the waiter came over to take our order, we both settled on roast chicken. We had wine with dinner and lingered over it afterwards. We talked for hours. He was funny and it was a pleasant evening. I don't think I've ever had so much fun on a first date in all my life. This guy was amazing and we had so much in common it was uncanny. When our sojourn came to an end, he offered to drive me home. On the way he asked if he could take me out again the next night. Needless to say, I accepted. If he had not asked me I was going to ask him, regardless of proper protocol!

 After we had been getting very tight for a couple of weeks, he asked me to spend the weekend at his cottage. I jumped at it. Everything had been going so good, I was totally ready to take this to another level. This would be a solid step in that direction. He picked me up at 6am, we stopped off at a little restaurant along the way for breakfast then headed on our way. I could not get over the vistas as we traveled. A rolling landscape changed to mountains with green coniferous trees and deep blue lakes. We got to a small cottage on a shore of a modest sized lake. It was cozy and picturesque. Everything was better than I had hoped. It had a large fireplace that heated the whole cabin, as well as the one bedroom.

 That night was like heaven because he was a genius in bed.  He was like the EverReady bunny and just kept going, and going, and going. I guess that made me the anti-bunny because I just kept cumming and cumming and cumming.  I have never been made love to like that before. Later on as we snuggled up and settled down for the night, it seemed like I had just drifted off when it was time to get up. I awoke to brilliant sunlight streaming through the windows.

And then the axe fell! I knew there had to be something about this guy. He was just too perfect. As I came fully awake, I noticed he was not beside me. As I turned around there he was. There he stood in his altogether, except for my bra and panties. He had put on my eye liner and lipstick as well. As I stared, he informed me that he liked to cross dress once in a while, and asked me if it turned me on. I informed him that it didn't and he had better give my stuff back.

After chasing him around the cabin for twenty minutes trying to get my panties back, I decided that was it. This guy was just too weird for me! After packing, we had a very quiet three hour drive back. It seemed to take forever.When I got in the door, the first thing I did was to through out the bra and panties that he had sullied and then I took a long hot shower in an effort to purge my soul of him.

Why does this stuff always happen to me? Just when I thought everything was going great, I get my emotions stomped on!

I was depressed for quite a while, and then decided to take matters into my own hands to turn things around. Rather than rely on friends for dates, I joined an online dating site. I went out with a variety of guys before finding one that I gelled with. I am going steady with a guy who may not be the Greek god of male beauty, but he is funny and reliable. I am head over heels in love with him. And guess what? He does not wear my clothes!

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The Dangers Of Online Dating

The Killer May Have Been the Date from Hell!

Sonia Varaschin was killed because she just wanted to meet someone special online.

This situation is a devastating example of the risks underscoring any situation where you meet someone on the internet. Even though the killer left a trail of information on Sonia's computer, it was difficult for police to delve through. This is mainly do to the anonymous nature of dating sites, and the ability of stalkers to totally hide on totally free dating sites. In any event, none of this was any help to Sonia herself.

When someone chooses a site like plentyoffish, they are actually seriously increasing their risk of exposure to predators. Let me clarify that comment.
I am not singling our plentyoffish.com, because other free online dating sites like OKcupid.com fall in the same camp.  I will not try to list them all. Many sites walk the fine edge of maximum danger without actually realizing it.

The real concern here is that there is no traceability to individual people in a free dating model which inherently increases risk for all members. Here is why.

There are lots of weirdos out there. Some are just lacking social skills, but others are sociopaths. There is a very real chance that someone who appears to be nice in a chat room is not so wonderful in real life, and the most dangerous ones are very clever at hiding their anti-social behaviour. The most dangerous of course are homicidal stalkers. They will take your life without a second thought.

So why am I singling out the free communication dating sites? Well actually I am not!
This range of sites also includes facebook.com. Accepting friend requests from someone you do not know who is a friend of a friend is a very dangerous practice. If you friend is as sloppy as you are, you may find that you just befriended a stalker.

Social networking sites that require some form of payment before allowing communication are inherently safer. Because it is easy for police to follow the money on such sites, sexual predators stay clear of them.  On the other hand, it only takes them a small amount of time to set up a string of phony email account on yahoo ,then set up a bogus email account on gmail using the yahoo account as reference, then erase the yahoo account.  At that point you can now go into the gmail account and point the base email account to some fictitious email account on aol, and you have pretty much left a tough trail for police to track.  Smart stalkers use a trail for free emails spanning several countries and corporate entities, thus becoming more invisible.  With a fist full of untraceable email accounts your typical sexual predator can join free social networking sites to their heart's content.  Coupled with a disposable cell phone purchased in another city, and you have full communication with someone who has just created an untraceable identity.

So what can you do about it?
For starters, stay clear of free dating sites. They are not worth the risk.
These next tips are just common sense details:
1) Make sure you communicate online for a fair length of time before meeting in person. Keep all details about who you really are or where you live private until you know them better.
2) At some point use a disposable phone yourself, or else take advantage of an anonymous phone service, like MyPrivateLine.com, which offers a disposable number that lets you talk to strangers without revealing your phone number.
3) Before you commit your heart, make sure you are doing due diligence on this person. Be careful with what you say, and listen carefully to what is said. Consider recording the call so you can take notes after.  Look for changes in the lines that they string you. Ask for the same information a few different ways over the course of your initial acquaintance and make sure the answers are consistent. Inconsistent answers are all danger signals. Stalkers will often mix up the stories that they tell different women, and that is one of your best weapons in finding if they are genuine or bullshit.
4) Seek recent photos, and think of some way that you can verify that the photo is recent.
5) Make sure that they understand that you are just being careful. Honest people will not have a serious problem with it. The worst thing that can happen is that they take a walk if they think you are a bit nutso. You must also be willing to do the same. If you are not willing to give up your home town, then use a public library and use a paper from another city in your photo.
6) Meet at a café rather than a bar, meet in the day time, and keep it short. For added security tell your friends where you are and make sure that your date knows this as soon as they arrive.
7) Use your camera phone and MMS it to a few friends. Then tell them what you have done that. If they have a problem with you doing this, then get out yesterday!

Use your head before you lose your heart so you can keep both.

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