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Thursday, November 22, 2012
BBW Sexy Ladies
Everyone has their own standards of sexy.
The idea of sexy has many different meanings to individual people.
As society has changed, the boundaries have been pushed, tested, stretched and shattered where the concept of sexy is concerned.
Sex, for most of the twentieth century, was considered to be a not to be discussed in polite company topic.
Once movies became a big part of everyone's life, the idea of liking large women was less and less likely to be entertained by many males. Hollywood stars were usually skinnier than most women for their time. The reason was simple; cameras add pounds to anyone's form, so stars tended to be thinner than average in real life to appear normal on the screen. Gradually, the the sexy standard gradually started to shift from voluptuous to thin.
There is now a trend in place that is moving the sexy ideal to larger sizes.
With plastic surgery, big boobs are more in vogue, even on skinny women.
Push up bras with even triple padding are hot selling items among the slim set, but when their male companions see them without clothes on, the jig (jug?) is up. Men are disappointed with push-up-bra types. So, many men are now look at women with naturally large busts, so voluptuous is back in vogue. And on that note, who is more curvy than a BBW?
When you look back through the larger part of history, curvy women were the most desirable. Larger women were seen as fruitful, and offspring were a benefit in hunter-gatherer and rural based societies. Even in cave man days, small figurines often idealized their goddesses as curvy women and in most cases these figurines were more fat than voluptuous.
The lyrics in "Fiddler On The Roof" (If I Was a Rich Man) a story about Russian peasant society in the early 1900's talks about a rich man's wife as having a proper double chin. In other words, for much of the past, being portly was a status symbol, because it proved you had plenty to eat, and therefore must be rich.
Towards the end of the twentieth century, there has been a new incoming citizens from many various societies into north America. With these societies of people have come the more traditional preference for larger families and women who will bear larger families. The curvy lady is back in fashion.
Who knows, maybe in a few more years, Hollywood starlets will be big beautiful women. Mae West was certainly not in any way skinny, but in the early 20's and 30's she was most men's ideal of a sexy lady.
If you are interested in meeting and dating a BBW, or if you are a BBW looking to meet a man who will appreciate you for what you are, then you should click on this link.
BBW Dating Sites
There are also a lot of other types of dating sites out there, so for those of you who are not into BBW, this link is for you:
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Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Black Dating Sites
The Internet is now the engine that drives freedom of expression to the entire world. There are at least two faces to this freedom however. The first is that there are no barriers to hate-mongers to spew their trash on the world at large. The better side of the Internet is its ability to drive the causes of freedom of religion, the embracing of racial equality, and lauding the benefits of religious diversity.
This is most evident on the various online dating sites that have popped up all over the Internet. All aspects of sex, sexuality, religion, race and language are catered to. Online Internet Personals sites have championed these freedoms on the Internet since their earliest roots.
Dating online is not just for a single race, black women and black men use the internet to find lovers. The best thing about the Internet is that it is totally cool with the types of relationships that were much less tolerated for so many years. The Internet tends to promote a laissez faire attitude when it comes to mixed relationships, whether it be mixed race, mixed religion, mixed ethnicity, or any possible combination of these things.
Though you might think it hard to find black singles online, you can find them if you know what sites to focus on. Here are a few thoughts on how to find black men and black women online.
With the quantity and variety of online social networking sites, it seems everyone is connected to everyone. It is almost guaranteed that some of your acquaintances are connected to single black men and single black woman. You can also check profiles on some of these social websites. Many social sites allow you to publish a personal profile with the objective of finding someone of similar interests. Black people and their admirers can set up profiles for others to see. These more general purpose social sites will often have an area for personals type ads that match black people with others from around the country. Sites like craigs list or kijiiji that have personals areas as part of their larger offerings are examples of this class of site.
Probably the easiest way to meet other black singles would be to contact a black online dating service. There are a lot of them online. It might be prudent for you to have a little patience when selecting the free black online dating site that you are searching for.
The Internet is the right place to find the perfect match for you, whether it is for fun or romance or making new friendship will likely be the best tool for you. Large varieties of people employ the internet daily. Concurrently on line there are thousands of black singles online searching for other black singles to connect with. If you google black dating sites, you will soon find that many sites allow you easily post a profile, look at other peoples profiles, see their photos and videos, chat and email them.
Keep in mind that black singles do not need to use special purpose black dating sites to get action, there are several online dating sites that offer interracial dating, so it is possible for you to meet another black single, Caucasian single, or Asian single almost right away. In conjunction with that there are people everywhere in the world looking to meet someone just like you, so you could be matched with someone from another company if you are willing to travel to meet them in person.
No one should be all alone, there are so many helpful ways of connecting with people these days there is no reason to be alone. There is nothing embarrassing about finding someone online, it is a superior approach because you can get to know the person before you establish any sort of face to face connection, and if you are not impressed with the persons nature, you can simply block them and you will cease to exist for them. The anonymity of online dating sites is their true strength. It offers a level of security that meeting in bars can never begin to approach. How could anybody give you grief if they do not even know who you really are or where you actually live.
So come on love starved singles out there, register with an online black dating site, you will only gain from the experience. Wouldn’t it be a lot more fun to have a partner in your life to spend time with and have a richer social life. Here is a link you should try, it offers a variety of dating sites including black dating sites, so check it out.
Black Dating
Monday, October 15, 2012
Vacation Sex in the Great White North
During the summer months many families and couples take their vacations in Canada because of its huge and vast beauty. However, all that beauty will invariably lead to the desire to have sex. I’ve compiled a listing of every province and territory, and an interesting place to stop for some adult fun in each. Please consult your family physician and your lawyer before attempting any of these suggestions.
Newfoundland
Castle Hill National Historic Site has an old seventeenth century fort called "Placentia". It is located strategically on the coast and was designed to protect French fishing rights from the predations of the British. Also strategically placed within this old fort are lots of nooks and crannies for you and your partner to sneak away from tour groups and enjoy some quickie private strategy sessions. Just be careful that the local gendarmes do not find you and turn your afternoon delight into a BDSM torture session.
PEI
Prince Edward Island was the first province to complete their portion of the Trans Canada Trail. It is called the Confederation Trail in PEI, and is a beautiful hike through all sorts of Maritime ecologies. From groves to meadows to rivers and wetlands, there are many beautiful and scenic spots to stop and take some alone time. Try to find a quiet and private spot away from the main hiking path though, unless getting caught is something you’ll enjoy…
Nova Scotia
Off the coast of beautiful Nova Scotia, there are regularly lots of whale sightings. Find yourself a cozy nook away from prying eyes and set up a nice picnic lunch. Then, let the magnificent whales set the romantic mood with their beautiful songs and smooth movements through the water. Pretty soon, they won’t be the only ones spraying out of their blow-holes.
New Brunswick
One really cool site to visit is the magnetic hill near Moncton New Brunswick. You and stop your car at the bottom of the hill, put it in neutral, and it will actually roll uphill. Once it gets to the top of the hill, you could stop and see if the magnetic attraction in this area has had any beneficial effects on your animal magnetism. Just test it out with your partner.
Quebec
Quebec City is one of the oldest inhabited places in North America. It was originally colonized by the French as a fur trading post and fort before the landing of the pilgrims. The current citadel and other fortifications around the city show the military history of the site very clearly. The French culture of Quebec is most evident here. This is nothing at all like Louisiana. After you have toured a fort you can eat at one of the many fine restaurants in the city. When finished with food, you can retire to your room and see if anything else stimulates your various appetites.
Ontario
Of course when you think of Ontario, you think of Niagara Falls. One of the wonders of the modern world, this traditional honeymoon haven is a great place to pass the time, including a world class casino, and a world class marine world. See the sites, have some supper, do a little gambling, then retire to your room where you can see if good luck falls your way in another sense.
Alberta
The Cheltenham Badlands of Ontario are nothing at all when compared to the scope of what Alberta has to offer. If you are into roughing it, you’ll love the Alberta Badlands even more! There’s Brook, Alberta, where you can go digging for bones in Dinosaur Provincial Park. And if you can’t find any fossils, get yourself a private spot and dig for a different kind of bone, if you know what I mean. For those of you who are into greener pleasures, it is hard to top Banff National Park. Located just outside of Calgary, the park starts in the foothills of the Rockies and winds through a long valley bordered by touring mountains, like Mount Eisenhower. Truly stunning in grandeur everywhere you look. Elk and Black bear wander along the side of the highway the cuts through the middle of the park. You can stay at Lake Louise and enjoy a glacier hike with world class dining. Paddle a canoe on the lake, and when you are finished paddling the canoe, you can get into some more kinky paddling with each other.
Manitoba
Lake Winnipeg has some beautiful fishing, sailing and camping activities in the summer. One of the largest fresh water lakes in the world, Lake Winnipeg rivals the size of two of the great lakes. And while you are fishing around, you might catch some amorous advances from your partner. Making love in a small boat is an interesting and unique activity. Try it, maybe you can learn to make love in a canoe like any real Canadian can!
Saskatchewan
In the northern part of Saskatchewan is the City of Saskatoon. I typical sprawling prairie city set on the forks of two rivers, there are many attractions to see. Including the Wanuskewin Heritage Park just north of the city. This is a facility that shows the heritage of the cree Indians who are native to this area. Maybe you can convince the authorities to let you make love in one of the exhibit Teepees..
British Columbia
Port Alberni is a unique place to visit. Located at the end of one of the longer inlets in the world, this city, which is physically located in the center of Vancouver Island, is actually on the west coast. The inlet is over 40 miles long. You can take a cruise for the full length of the inlet, seeing sleek seals, jumping salmon, and the occasional whale. One of the stops is the world's only floating post office. Once you have finished with the mail, you can exercise you male prerogatives with your own sleek honey.
Yukon
If you decide to venture to the far north of Canada, you should plan to do it in the summer. Winter is just too unpredictable and it is no place for casual tourists. If you do venture into the Yukon in the summer, you will experience very long days and very short nights. In fact, if you are at Dawson in the middle of June, you can read a book at midnight. A couple interesting things to do while in Dawson are to gamble at Diamond Tooth Gerties, Pan for Gold, take a guided river tour, or best yet, drink a Sour Toe Cocktail at the Sourdough Saloon in the "Downtown Hotel". The sour toe cocktail is a drink with a somewhat mummified human toe inside of it. After you have finished your cocktail, you can retire to your room to enjoy a different type of cocktail with your partner as well as explore whatever toe fetishes, you might have.
NWT
If you are into architecture, then the igloo shaped church in Canada's most northerly town of Inuvik might interest you. Definitely above the artic circle, the sun never sets at all for several days in mid June. Well worth a trip to see. Of course that means that you can make love under the sun for 24 hours straight. An interesting pastime if you have the stamina.
Nunavut
If you are in Nunavit, you might want to set your sites on Iqaluit on Baffin Island in Frobisher Bay. Watching polar bears is the local pastime. You may also want to experience the interesting taxi service where cabs operate more like buses with custom destinations, but you have to share the cab with anyone who flags it. After you have toured the settlement for the 30 minutes that would take, and you get bored of watching polar bears, then you and your partner can partake in the next most favorite activity, and that is mutual sexual satisfaction.
For more cool places in Canada to visit see:
http://www.canadacool.com
And if you are reading this and annoyed that you do not have a main squeeze to take on vacation with you, then visit the following:
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Hello! Old Mother Hubbard went to the cupboard often.
When she got there, the cupboard was bare. Bummer.
Wednesday, October 10, 2012
Finding Nemo!
This is something that happened to me a while back. An amusing story with a happy ending.
I was in a relationship dry spot for a period of a few months when I met him. Believe it or not, I was walking by a sex store when I saw him inside. Something compelled me to go in, and find out more about him. I became attached to him pretty quickly, and he was exactly what I was looking for.No complications, no entanglements and always immediately satisfying. I called him “Nemo”, don't ask me why, for some reason it just seemed appropriate. He was best when wet, but he never did become a swimmer.
Nemo had prodigious stamina and could last for hours if necessary. I always got tired before he did. It was a relationship made in heaven! He had a tight compact body. Very elegant and sleek. Good things come in small packages, and that was Nemo. Small but mighty. He had twice the energy that you would expect of something his size. Only once did he cause me problems, but it was a big, big deal. We needed a third party to help us sort it out, but in the end, everything worked out just fine.
I am talking of course about my mini-vibrator!
He had caught my eye because he just looked like a high quality item. I had been having a sexual dry spell for several months when I spied him in the window. He had a small little carrying case that slipped in my purse. It looked like I was prepared for a rainy day to the casual observer because most people who saw it thought it was an emergency umbrella. Nobody who saw him ever recognized him for the deliverer of delights that he was.
I have an unusual job for a woman. I am a traveling salesman selling replacement car parts to automotive parts wholesalers throughout the region that I live in. My job involves insane amounts of travel, and I am often away for three weeks at a time every month. When I first started, I was thrilled at the freedom that my job gave me. Traveling, meeting new people, opening new accounts. It was quite a rush. But after several years of that my enthusiasm started to wane. By my second decade on the road, it was just a job. At that time of my life, I was well into my mid forties, and just did not feel like a career change. I was starting to feel a bit trapped in my work. On the plus side, I was still single and free, but that was not as fun as it had been. When I first started my sales career on the road, I loved the fact that I was almost living in more than one city at the same time. I actually made sure that I had guys I could call in every one of them if I felt like going out. I guess a lot of people would have called me loose, but I think that was an exaggeration. I was young, good looking and guys were lining up. Could I help that? Anyway, most of the time I just went out with them but I will admit to making love to several of them, sometimes in the same trip. It was a heady time for me. In any event, I always had two or three guys on the leash at any one time. I avoided one night stands. In fact, I never had one. I hope that all of my past companions still think of me with the same warmth of feelings that I still feel for them. I was always very careful about protection, and have never had any issues. As I spent more time on the road, these types of relationships started to pale. I guess I was looking for something more without realizing it. So as the each of them got permanently involved with someone who wanted to build a family, I found I just did not have the urge to replace them. My life became quite lonely. Deep down in side, I knew that I was looking to settle down, but I was on the road three weeks a month and I just could not see me doing any sort of normal family gig. Hence, Nemo.
I was coming home from a longer than normal and rather arduous sales tour when I frightened myself. I dozed off for a second behind the wheel and just caught myself before I left the road. So rather than try to make it home that night, I decided to hole up in a motel for the evening. It was rush hour and even though I was only about 20 miles away, it would take me too long to get there. I ate a light supper, then washed up and hit the sack. As always, when you are the tiredest, that is when you are most likely to have trouble falling asleep. So after about a half hour of trying, I pulled Nemo out of my purse to take me on a pleasure trip. As I activated him, I realized that he was not buzzing normally. I remembered that I had been meaning to replace his batteries but had not gotten around to it. So I dug around in my purse and pulled out the new ones that I had already purchased for that purpose. With the replacements in place, trusty Nemo was soon firing on all cylinders.
I have no idea why, but that night Nemo was giving me more pleasure than ever before. I was totally enthralled with pleasure. It was either the fresh batteries or the state of exhaustion that I was in or some combination of both. I really do not know why, I just know that it felt awesome. Maybe this was why I was shoving him in much deeper than my usual norm. In and out, in and out, I was in heaven. Just at the point of climax, I had him in deeper than I think I had ever pushed him. When I came, he slipped up inside of me. It was an awkward angle for me and I could not reach him. The problem was that he was still running. I started to panic, but he kept right on humming along. Damn those EverReady batteries. I came again in a couple of minutes, and then again. I was tired. I started to think of ways to get him out, but motel rooms are not known for handy things to push up your vagina that could snag a wayward vibrator. I had an idea, so I stood up and bounced and jumped on my heels. I hoped that his weight would dislodge him. I was almost successful with that, but I came again just at the point I was starting to be able to reach him. Up he went again!
Damn his little electric heart. I was almost dead, but he was showing no signs of stopping. I was interchanging praying to God with cursing EverReady at this point. I finally came to the conclusion that I was not going to be able to do this by myself. Asking the hotel night clerk might have made his day, but I was not about to do that. Instead, I looked up the address of the nearest hospital and payed a visit to their emergency ward. I was hoping to get a sympathetic nurse rather than some uptight doctor. At least my luck turned on that one. The emergency ward was not busy, and I was taken to a room within thirty minutes. In that time, I came six more times. Now I was just getting tired of it all, but Nemo wasn't.
Once in the room, a doctor showed up almost immediately, and had Nemo out within seconds. What a relief! It only took me a few moments to feel the embarrassment, and my face was soon red as a beet. He was nice about it though, and said that it was not the first time that had happened. As he walked away to attend to another patient, I could not help but check out his scrumptious butt. Way nice! The rest of his physique was good as well. Looked like he worked out, and he was pretty decent looking as middle age guys my age go. But with all those eye candy features, someone else must have him totally wrapped up already.
I was so tired at that point I could hardly pull up my pants. Good thing that my shoes were slip-ons. As I left, I asked the nurse where the cafeteria was, and wandered in that direction. I had just started to work on my croissant and sip a herbal tea when Dr. Stud Muffin walks in and orders a coffee and toasted bagel. I was trying not to stare, but my tongue was sort of hanging out a bit I think. But he surprised me when he wandered over and asked to sit down.
As a salesman, you know that I must have a gift for gab. In spite of that gift of gab, I have always had trouble opening up and pouring my heart out to anybody. Maybe it was his bedside manner, but with this guy I found that I was pouring my heart out to him within five minutes. He was amazingly easy to talk to. I just implicitly trusted him. He said he knew what I meant. His wife had left him a couple of years before and he was just getting over the divorce. It was the job that broke them up. It was too demanding of his time and she just got tired of being alone. All of a sudden, Dr. Hot became a much more desirable person to me. I decided that I needed to explore a potential future with him and shifted the conversation a bit to accommodate that.
I had a lightness in my step as I walked out of the hospital. It seemed like all that fatigue was gone. I had managed to get him interested enough in me that he asked me out on a date that weekend. Our first date went well, and we started to go out more often as our schedules allowed. Both of us understood demanding jobs, and neither of us ever got angry about the occasional missed date. One thing led to another, and after a year we moved in together. His cooler house of course. Two years later, I walked down the aisle with him, happy as a lark.
Alas poor Nemo, the more I was involved with the man who would become my husband, the less I had need for Nemo. Likely he was happy for me because I was so happy myself. Sometimes I think that he planned it. The way things just worked out that is. Maybe he was my little messenger from God. In any event, Nemo still has a special place on a shelf in my bedroom. Every once in a while I take him down, and remember all the great things that he brought into my life.
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Thursday, September 13, 2012
Mature Online Dating Works!
I was in my early fifties and had been divorced for a couple of years. In that time I had not connected with anybody, so, like many other people nowadays, I turned to online dating. I had always assumed that internet dating was something that just younger people did, so I really did not expect very much. Like I said, I was desperate and could not think of anything else to try. Even so, convinced by my friends and sisters, I jumped in with both feet. I made my profile, and had my sisters pick out some of the best photos of me. I am such a Luddite with computers that I had to actually get a friend to upload the photos that my sister selected for my profile. So once I was finished with all of that, I pretty much just waited. I was not expecting much. While I was waiting, I did spend some time checking out the guys on the site. I was pleased to see that there were a fair amount of them my age. That surprised me because I expected to just see younger guys. So much for my assumptions.
The next day, when I logged in I had ten email messages in my inbox. All were introductions from guys my age. A couple of them even looked interesting, so I replied to them and sent my regrets to the rest. From that point on I was on the site multiple times a day interacting with a lot of different men. It was pretty heady. A lot of them were pretty oafish, but I just blocked them so they could not talk to me anymore. What a great feature that is! As I got further into it, I decided that there were a few guys that I wanted to meet in person. Chatting and emailing online is one thing, but you need to meet to know if there is any real chemistry between you. I used a restaurant a few blocks from where I worked as my rendezvous. That way I felt safe and that I would have control of the situation. It was exciting, but it was exhausting. Learning so much information about so many people and keeping it all straight in your head is tough work.But I forced myself to stick it out. I started questioning if I could keep up the pace, but I was determined not to spend much more of my life by myself, so I kept at it.
I felt most comfortable in my life being part of a long term relationship. I thrived on that and really wanted to find someone to have in my life again. In all my conversations with various men, one person seemed to be in my thoughts more often than most. He had a way of wording things in his emails that I found refreshing from the rest of the men. He was concise, yet managed to be articulate at the same time. It showed that he thought about what he wrote about before committing it to words. So much better than the random blathering that I got from most other people. It even showed in his profile which left me with the impression that he was someone well educated, who was not ego centric. He said that he believed in equality for women and that he was in touch with his feminine side. My first instinct was that he was gay and just pulling my leg, but I later realized that hew was the genuine article. He was just a very empathic person who cared about everybody. He could not stand that fact that some people treated women like second class citizens. In fact, he took it as a personal affront. He stated that he had worked in Europe for quite a few years, but had recently been transferred to the home office in our city.
We both loved winter sports, and since I had traveled to Europe more than a few times, we had a lot to talk about. His profile had no picture on it, so at no point in our early interactions was I chasing a pretty face. It was his communication ability and points of view that won my respect. When he later emailed me a picture of himself, I was not disappointed. I didn’t want him to call me. I thought that would be giving out too much information. As a compromise, I informed him through an e-mail that I would call him. At first I was too nervous to call him after he gave me his number. But after reflecting on the silliness of it all, I finally got up the gumption to call. It changed my life.
He turned out to be an incredibly sweet and charming guy. Always a gentleman. We had made plans to meet at a small restaurant that we both knew about. I guess we each wanted to be on a comfortable footing. In any event, like always, I was early, so I just settled in for the wait. I was still concerned that I might be disappointed, or worse yet, that we just had no spark. As I looked towards the door, in walked this gorgeous hunk of a man. He had black hair with just a touch of grey, he just stood there looking for me for a minute then came over and sat down. I was in complete awe. We talked and laughed and shared some personal stories. Time was streaming by but I could not stop it. I did not want it to have to end. The meal would not last long enough for me. I was having too good a time. We left after he paid the bill. I noticed that he left a nice tip as well. He kissed me when we got to my house. As he drove away, I sighed. Everything was just too good to be true. The chemistry for me had been instantaneous. I already knew that he was the one.
Each date we had after that one seemed better than the last. I knew it had to plateau at some time, but for the present I was just riding the wave. But something began to bother me. I had not been exactly truthful about my age in my profile. My friends convinced me that it was a marketing exercise and that stretching the truth a bit was expected. I had not changed my age all that much, only three years. It was the principle of the thing. I had started out with a lie and I was concerned that it would end up blowing up in my face. I knew that I needed to tell him the truth, but I kept waiting for the right time to present itself.
He took me to a little club he liked for a drink one night. The waiter carded me, and from the gleam in his eye, I knew that my friend Maxwell had put him up to it. To play into the joke, I pulled out my license to show him and we all laughed when he pretended to scrutinize it really closely. Then Max asked if he could see my license, without thinking I handed it to him. He stood up and replied “You're 54!” I just sat there not knowing what to say. Then he just cracked up with laughter! When I asked, “What's so funny?” He said that he had lied about his age as well. When the smoke cleared it turns out that he was actually just two years older than me. We both laughed that we had each started out with a lie.
We had dated for six months or so. Then one night he called me at one o’clock in the morning, waking me from a wonderful dream. He needed to say something to me and it could not wait. He insisted on coming over immediately. I was on pins and needless for a half hour before he walked in the door, whereupon he said, “I need to tell you something that will not hold anymore!”
I grabbed a few kleenex from a box because I was sure this was going to be bad. Well I needed them, but in a good way. He got down on one knee, told me I was the best thing that had ever happened to him, that he had been waiting all of his life to find me, and asked me to marry him. After sobbing a few minutes from the shock of what had just transpired I answered, “Yes! Yes! I will marry you.”
I have been married to Maxwell now for three years. It has been the most wonderful period of my life. My former marriage does not compare to what I have with Max. The honeymoon never ends. And to think I found him on an online dating site. Someplace that I had thought of as a last chance place to meet someone!
I will not say that things between Max and me are always perfect. Sometimes they are even better than perfect if you can imagine such a thing. I will be perpetually grateful to the online dating industry, and in particular the specific site I joined for bringing Max into my life. If you have been loath to try Internet dating, you should give it a try. It is not all as rosy as I have depicted in my tale. I found that there were a lot of truly despicable characters on just about every site. But each site gives you tools that allow you to easily block them. When you block someone on a dating site, you cease to exist for them. They will never be able to find you in search results again. From their perspective, you no longer have an account on the site. I tell you that only because I have met a lot of women who stopped using dating sites because they ran into a few morons, and never spent any time learning how to deal with them. In any event, even with the negatives that you will find, I would recommend online dating to anyone.
Below I have posted a link to one of the resource sites that I used. The sites referenced there are some of the best and are well organized. There are so many to choose from you are sure to find what you want. Good luck in your search!
Dating Advice For Women
The next day, when I logged in I had ten email messages in my inbox. All were introductions from guys my age. A couple of them even looked interesting, so I replied to them and sent my regrets to the rest. From that point on I was on the site multiple times a day interacting with a lot of different men. It was pretty heady. A lot of them were pretty oafish, but I just blocked them so they could not talk to me anymore. What a great feature that is! As I got further into it, I decided that there were a few guys that I wanted to meet in person. Chatting and emailing online is one thing, but you need to meet to know if there is any real chemistry between you. I used a restaurant a few blocks from where I worked as my rendezvous. That way I felt safe and that I would have control of the situation. It was exciting, but it was exhausting. Learning so much information about so many people and keeping it all straight in your head is tough work.But I forced myself to stick it out. I started questioning if I could keep up the pace, but I was determined not to spend much more of my life by myself, so I kept at it.
I felt most comfortable in my life being part of a long term relationship. I thrived on that and really wanted to find someone to have in my life again. In all my conversations with various men, one person seemed to be in my thoughts more often than most. He had a way of wording things in his emails that I found refreshing from the rest of the men. He was concise, yet managed to be articulate at the same time. It showed that he thought about what he wrote about before committing it to words. So much better than the random blathering that I got from most other people. It even showed in his profile which left me with the impression that he was someone well educated, who was not ego centric. He said that he believed in equality for women and that he was in touch with his feminine side. My first instinct was that he was gay and just pulling my leg, but I later realized that hew was the genuine article. He was just a very empathic person who cared about everybody. He could not stand that fact that some people treated women like second class citizens. In fact, he took it as a personal affront. He stated that he had worked in Europe for quite a few years, but had recently been transferred to the home office in our city.
We both loved winter sports, and since I had traveled to Europe more than a few times, we had a lot to talk about. His profile had no picture on it, so at no point in our early interactions was I chasing a pretty face. It was his communication ability and points of view that won my respect. When he later emailed me a picture of himself, I was not disappointed. I didn’t want him to call me. I thought that would be giving out too much information. As a compromise, I informed him through an e-mail that I would call him. At first I was too nervous to call him after he gave me his number. But after reflecting on the silliness of it all, I finally got up the gumption to call. It changed my life.
He turned out to be an incredibly sweet and charming guy. Always a gentleman. We had made plans to meet at a small restaurant that we both knew about. I guess we each wanted to be on a comfortable footing. In any event, like always, I was early, so I just settled in for the wait. I was still concerned that I might be disappointed, or worse yet, that we just had no spark. As I looked towards the door, in walked this gorgeous hunk of a man. He had black hair with just a touch of grey, he just stood there looking for me for a minute then came over and sat down. I was in complete awe. We talked and laughed and shared some personal stories. Time was streaming by but I could not stop it. I did not want it to have to end. The meal would not last long enough for me. I was having too good a time. We left after he paid the bill. I noticed that he left a nice tip as well. He kissed me when we got to my house. As he drove away, I sighed. Everything was just too good to be true. The chemistry for me had been instantaneous. I already knew that he was the one.
Each date we had after that one seemed better than the last. I knew it had to plateau at some time, but for the present I was just riding the wave. But something began to bother me. I had not been exactly truthful about my age in my profile. My friends convinced me that it was a marketing exercise and that stretching the truth a bit was expected. I had not changed my age all that much, only three years. It was the principle of the thing. I had started out with a lie and I was concerned that it would end up blowing up in my face. I knew that I needed to tell him the truth, but I kept waiting for the right time to present itself.
He took me to a little club he liked for a drink one night. The waiter carded me, and from the gleam in his eye, I knew that my friend Maxwell had put him up to it. To play into the joke, I pulled out my license to show him and we all laughed when he pretended to scrutinize it really closely. Then Max asked if he could see my license, without thinking I handed it to him. He stood up and replied “You're 54!” I just sat there not knowing what to say. Then he just cracked up with laughter! When I asked, “What's so funny?” He said that he had lied about his age as well. When the smoke cleared it turns out that he was actually just two years older than me. We both laughed that we had each started out with a lie.
We had dated for six months or so. Then one night he called me at one o’clock in the morning, waking me from a wonderful dream. He needed to say something to me and it could not wait. He insisted on coming over immediately. I was on pins and needless for a half hour before he walked in the door, whereupon he said, “I need to tell you something that will not hold anymore!”
I grabbed a few kleenex from a box because I was sure this was going to be bad. Well I needed them, but in a good way. He got down on one knee, told me I was the best thing that had ever happened to him, that he had been waiting all of his life to find me, and asked me to marry him. After sobbing a few minutes from the shock of what had just transpired I answered, “Yes! Yes! I will marry you.”
I have been married to Maxwell now for three years. It has been the most wonderful period of my life. My former marriage does not compare to what I have with Max. The honeymoon never ends. And to think I found him on an online dating site. Someplace that I had thought of as a last chance place to meet someone!
I will not say that things between Max and me are always perfect. Sometimes they are even better than perfect if you can imagine such a thing. I will be perpetually grateful to the online dating industry, and in particular the specific site I joined for bringing Max into my life. If you have been loath to try Internet dating, you should give it a try. It is not all as rosy as I have depicted in my tale. I found that there were a lot of truly despicable characters on just about every site. But each site gives you tools that allow you to easily block them. When you block someone on a dating site, you cease to exist for them. They will never be able to find you in search results again. From their perspective, you no longer have an account on the site. I tell you that only because I have met a lot of women who stopped using dating sites because they ran into a few morons, and never spent any time learning how to deal with them. In any event, even with the negatives that you will find, I would recommend online dating to anyone.
Below I have posted a link to one of the resource sites that I used. The sites referenced there are some of the best and are well organized. There are so many to choose from you are sure to find what you want. Good luck in your search!
Dating Advice For Women
Friday, August 10, 2012
Truly, These Are God's Chosen People!
When AIDS first started to run rampant through the straight community so many years ago, a bunch of ultra religious groups started to raise the hue and cry that AIDS was a plague foisted by God onto the world because we were too tolerant of the Gay lifestyle.
If you cotton to such arguments, then you have to also acknowledge that one group of society has remained almost unscathed by the curse that is AIDS. That group are committed lesbians. Ergo, if you believe that AIDS is a punishing plague foisted on us by the Almighty, then it only follows that Lesbians must be God's chosen people.
Needless to say, Lesbian Partners have a lot of good things going for them.
To offer a few examples:
- They never have to pick up for each other
- They can totally focus on their careers without worrying about planning for child bearing and children
- They never have to watch action movies
- The remote control on the TV is seldom used because nobody plays channel roulette
- The toilet is always left in the correct position – DOWN!
- No toilet splatter
- Both are experts on sexually satisfying a female
- They can always bring their partner to multiple orgasms
Kind of a warped viewpoint, but obviously valid!
If you are a lesbian seeking a woman, then consider the following link: lesbian looking for a woman dating site
Friday, July 20, 2012
Hidden Dangers of Popular Date Ideas
Did you know that the first few dates with someone new are the most critical? Most people understand this, but some do not. You want to be yourself, but you also want to appear like you’ve got things together. Complicating this phase of the relationship is the fact that most of the popular and safe first dating type places have some hidden traps that are easy to fall into. To help you all out, I’ve outlined a few potential problems that can arise during some common dates. Now if they do happen, you’ll be prepared and ready so you look like a together sort of person. Let’s begin.
Putting Parks
At first, this might seem like a safe date idea. What could go wrong? You’ve got an easy evening of walking through a few mini putt holes, right? Wrong! Even this cozy environment can have its dangers.
Make sure you leave your competitive instincts at home. Most women avoid competition with a man. They are always competing with other women, but do not like competing with men at all! Ensure that you up the fun quotient a lot! If you get too hung up on who wins, it’ll just get ugly in a hurry, especially if your date wins. Better to appear to be a good sport no matter who is victorious. And before you go making any “ball” or “in the hole” jokes, make sure your date is the sort who would appreciate them.
Frisbee Tossing
Throwing Frisbees with your new love when on a picnic can be a lot of fun. There are some things you have to remember though. If your paramour is not that adept at catching Frisbees, you can embarrass her. Make sure that you lob in some easy ones to start to assess her skill level. If she can handle it then you can increase the intensity a bit. Just make sure that you never toss it so hard that you run the risk of breaking a nose if she misses it. That will definitely put a damper on the rest of the day's entertainment!
On another note, stay away from windy locations like the beach so you do not lose control of it. If you spill someone's drink, or spill sand in their food with an errant Frisbee toss, you could have a potentially nasty confrontation on your hands It is a much better choice to pick a secluded clearing in a park or in some wilderness area for such activity. On top of that, even though there are hot beach bunnies for you to look at, the beach is also full of eye candy for your honey to admire. Who needs distractions like that. Better to pick a venue where both of you can focus on each other.
A Movie Date
Going to the show on a date is enjoyable for a few reasons. The right selection of movie and snacks will put your girl in a relaxed and erotic mood. Plus, you don’t have to maintain a conversation during the film, and after the film, you can talk about the movie. However, there are some things to keep aware of.
Likely the first surprise for you might be the price. Make sure you have at least a lot of dollars in your pocket, because you will likely have spent most of that between admission and snacks. IMAX is even more expensive than a regular movie.
The choice of movie is your second most important factor. Make sure you reserve your tickets online or by phone. Also, make sure that it does not have some hot leading man doffing his clothes (or at least baring his chest). You will be unlikely to score well that evening if she is still fixating on the washboard abs and rippling muscles of some Hollywood hunk.
Romantic movies are the best choice to turn her on. Fun romantic movies can work as well. Avoid depressing film noir type of shows. Way too depressing and that will lead to a no-nooky evening!
Music Concert
Make sure that you treat her to music that she likes! It’s no good taking her to see a reggae show if that’s what you’re into, but she’s not. Cater to her tastes. Always remember that you are her security. If there’s moshing, or rowdy drunks, you have to be her protection. Wear steel-toed boots if it’s a thrash metal show, just to be safe.
Secondly, you have to remember that after a loud show, both you and she will be partially deaf. So make sure what you think she said is, in fact, what she said. You don’t want to assume she said “I want sex” if she said “separate checks”.
Plus, remember that after a crowded show, you’re going to be sweaty. Bring some deodorant in the glove box to deal with your smell.
Midway Rides
Taking your honey to an amusement park would appear to be a no-brainer fun time. The best rides of course are the ones where she grabs you, either in fear, or just to keep from falling. It is a great venue for fun rides, challenging games, and eating sweet treats and street meat. Plus, if you win her a stuffed animal, she’ll have a sweet reminder of your fun time together. Never brag you to your girl that you will win her a stuffed toy. Carnival operators have the games rigged significantly in their favor, so it is much cheaper to buy her one at WalMart. It is a lot of fun to try, but no promises. Besides going broke, too much time spent on one activity that only you are doing is no fun and liable to put a damper on the rest of your evening.
Be wary of the food as well. The food may taste good at the time, but eat sparingly. Who knows how sanitary the facilities are that produced it. If you are not careful, you will end up with a re-enactment of the pie eating contest in the movie "Stand By Me". Not a great ending to an evening, but guaranteed to be an evening ender if it happens.
One last thing. Many rides take pictures of you at the scariest point. Figure out where that is before you get on the ride and try to look nonchalant at that point. After all, you may want to by the picture later.
Arcade Date
Even if your date is not into gaming, the both of you can still have fun with it. But watch out. She may just kick your butt and embarrass you. So that means you cannot brag before hand about how great you are. Besides, losing is okay. It gives you the perfect excuse to take her back there some other day for a re-match.
The Starbucks Date
The perfect first date venue can also have its own dangers. If the date is going well, there is a good chance that you will linger over several cups of Joe. As the caffeine builds, you will get the jitters, become a motor mouth, and in general start to turn her off! Have a cup of warm water with lemon in between cups of coffee. It’ll dilute the caffeine, and make you look chic.
Well that is about all I can think of for those classic dates. If there is a date I missed, the trick is just to think ahead. Go through the whole date in your mind, and anticipate what could go wrong. Have solutions ready to go if the worst does happen. You’ll look like you’re a together sort of fellow, and that can only help your chances at getting her to actually say “I want sex”, and not “separate checks”.
For other relationship advice, you should take a look here as well:
Advice For Men When Dating
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